Teasing girls is fun. It's also attractive, because it demonstrates that she knows you don't idolize her or put her on a pedestal. Women like when a man treats her like a person, not some angel.
But some guys take it too far. They tease her too much. Why do guys do this? Because they don't know what else to do. In an effort to show her that he's confident and funny, the guy ends up being too mean or offending her.
For guys who are less confident in themselves, teasing a girl is a good self-defense mechanism. If you play mean and hard to get, then you're not sticking your neck out; if she rejects you, well, you were already being a dick. Instead of being genuine and vulnerability when the time comes, he stays in one gear the whole time - teasing.
And over texts? The risks are amplified. There's a lot of room for misunderstanding, because text lacks the tone and vibe of face-to-face interactions.
In this two-part series, I go through a thorough examination of one guy's overuse of teasing over text. Here is part one.
0:40 - A crash course on attainability, a central concept to this video.
3:00 - How the player reputation is an example of attainability problems
4:00 - Hector gets back on track, because his choo-choo train of had derailed with digressions
5:00 - After more tangents, Hector makes another good point about attainability
6:15 - Okay, back to teasing, for real this time. I go over how teasing is attractive, but also how it can be risky.
8:30 - The text analysis begins.
9:15 - If she already likes you, you don't need to tease her too much.
10:15 - Text humor is sometimes confusing
11:00 - Self deprecation humor can also be misused
12:30 - Don't try to save a bad joke. Let it go.
14:30 - Pretend you're her. Imagine how YOUR texts look from HER perspective
16:20 - Weird text. But why tho?
17:00 - Keep game simple. That's mastery.
18:30 - Despite his mistakes, the thirst is still real.
20:45 - Hector gets a dark idea
21:30 - Why old women and young men don't want older guys hunting young chicks.
22:30 - STAY FOCUSED!
23:20 - She starts to lose patience
24:30 - How to encourage her to qualify herself if she doesn’t at first.
25:30 – Don’t get into hairy situations if you don’t have to
26:00 – Girls often TELL YOU HOW TO GET THEM
27:00 – Even if girls know you’re a fucker, don’t make them FEEL
like they’re only an option
29:00 – If she’s going for older guys, being married/divorced or having kids feeds into the fantasy of being with an older man
30:00 – When you fail to meet her expectations, she’ll look for further investment or value from you. However, as before, he could have avoided this problem by closing earlier
30:30 – Don’t ask her to follow your Instagram
32:00 – When you’re getting sexy pictures from girls, stop playing games and get down to action. Also, if a girl is showing a lot of interest through texts and pictures, take faster action.
33:00 – Awkward ending. Stay tuned for Part 2!
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Knowing how to tease a girl, while a bit different over text, is instrumental to mastering the texting version. Here's a good place to start - http://www.girlschase.com/content/teasing-girl-right-way
Not sure if she's ready or open to teasing? Read this - http://www.girlschase.com/content/tactics-tuesdays-how-gauge-her-openness-teasing
For some more tips on being playful, which teasing is a part of, see this article - http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-be-playful-4-tips-youll-need
When you first learn how to tease and be playful with girls, you will go overboard. This is okay, and it's necessary. Read here why - http://www.girlschase.com/content/genuine-man-part-1-arrogant-man
Of course, you will need to evolve. Here is a look at the inner game of what happens when you fix things like teasing too much - http://www.girlschase.com/content/genuine-man-part-3-humble-man
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