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When I talk masculine, It's more about the aggressive nature of men. Testosterone is what drives men to be ambitious, competitive, and overall, more aggressive.
Most women, out of insecurity, elect to supress this part of their nature. They suppress it because they believe that being overly feminine will keep the guy. Quite the contrary. Being overly femine will make guys lose interest overtime. A guy wants a woman who's relaxed, supportive, but at the same time has masculine traits in her. Why? Because it makes you more relatable to a guy. It makes you different from most women who try to only flaunt their feminine nature.
A guy enjoys spending time with other men because they relate in their masculinity. It's no surprise why women who have masculine quality, yet are feminine, have guys chasing after them.
In order to apply this in your life you have to learn to observe moments when you suppress your personality. Moments when you feel shame of doing this or that. It's underneath that shame and guilt where your feminine nature lies. Don't run away from your pain, run towards it and explore it.
2.A bit of uncertainty
Guys want to know that their girl loves and cares about them. But whenever he knows that you love and care about them without any fear of losing you, then they'll get too comfortable and begin losing interest. Whenever there's no competetion, or at least the threat of it, a man won't be sexually ready to fight for his woman. He needs to feel the need to constantly impress you. To constnatly win you over every single day. I'm not asking you to be a woman who loves him conditionally, but don't be so naive to make him feel like there's nothing he can do to lose you. If a person stops working for something, they'll lose it. Women make guys feel so secure, so validated, that they KNOW they'll never lose you. So what's the point of working to keep you? What's the point of trying to woo you? There isn't.
Make him feel a bit uncertain by either increasing your social circle, taking classes where there's other sexes so that he can stay in a sexually competative state.
3.High levels of self awareness
low levels of self awareness always yields to low levels of self esteem. The low levels of self awareness comes about because you are attempting to run away or blind yourself from parts about yourself that you dislike. The distraction strengthens the false self you're trying to project and proliforates the shame and guilt you feel from your "bad parts". This is projected unto the world as defensiveness, and constant conflict, within and without.
To overcome this you have to learn to go within yourself and become more present of your experience. See the parts you are ashamed of and observe the physical sensations associated with it. Notice how your mind reacts to your body and stay present. SEe it. Don't do nothing about it. Smile at your pain. This will increase your level of self awareness and thus, drastically improve your relationship with yourself and with others. Men will love you for this because having high levels of self awareness allows guys to experience you without having to deal with your counter transference of your own pain.
A woman without a life is a woman who's not living with purpose. You have to have things you do outside of your man. It's crucial for a woman to have a social circle, or activities that she does on a weekly basis that's away from her man. Why? Because a man wants a woman who can do fine without him. He might want her to be all his, but he'll soon realize how it feels to have a woman who doesn't have any sources of self esteem outside of him. Don't make that mistake that all needy women make.
5.A woman who values her health
It's simple. IF you're dead, then there's nothing I can do. You have to take care of your body. Make that your main priority in life. You must learn to take care of your mind, and body. It's not just about being in shape. It's also about giving your body what it needs. The proper nutrients that's balanced and promotes health and vitality. Too many women let their health go. I like to believe that the healthier you are as a woman the more a guy is going to stay. It's how nature works. I'm not saying that men are superficial, but that it's a natural reaction to find unhealthy things unattractive.