Energetic Sex Rocks… How Do I Not Fall In Love?
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Cathy: Someone wrote in and said that “I’ve just discovered Energetic Sex, thanks very much Reid and I found that it’s just as intoxicating as penetration can be. How do I keep good boundaries in the casual sex protocol when I’m really getting drown in by Energetic Sex I’m sharing with people?”
I’m here with Reid Mihalko from
Reid: I’m here with Cathy Vartuli from Um, so are you following the casual sex protocols?
Cathy: Well, she…what she wrote was that she found that the energetic touch and sensation were so intoxicating that she was getting drown in and…and feeling more feelings that she’d hope to feel. She was hoping to keep it casual.
Cathy: But that because the….the sensations and the…and the experience was so intense, it was harder to keep that casual.
Reid: Okay, um
Cathy: And she was asking for advice.
Reid: Alright. So for those people who haven’t checked out the casual sex protocols, go to and for those of you who are like “What’s energetic sex?” You can go to one word or hyphenated or energetic sex, one word or hyphenated all four of those should give you the same page if I’ve done my job right. Ecstatic experience which is really what we’re talking about where your brain dumps a ton of Oxycontin and…
Cathy: The body chemicals
Reid: All kinds of good yummy stuff that’s like the “hahh… ahh” and then when you blow people’s minds or they find something that’s totally their jam, then there’s all this like excitement and enthusiasm and like “Hahh!” And then
Cathy: I want to have it more, I want you more.
Reid: Yeah. And if you throw in a couple of people who’ve got like good you know like chemistry, good pheromones for your… for your brain too it can be like “Whoah! That’s a lot going on.” So, understanding how you imprint on people and how you label “crushes” so that you’re not tumbling head over heels in love, those things are some of the things that casual…that casual sex protocols start to deal with. In this situation, have less great energetic sex maybe like medio…maybe mediocrity is your answer.
Cathy: No, you are also finding great sex….great energetic sex with the number of people so your brain doesn’t insist you that like if the first time I’ve…I’ve shown people energetic sex, I’ve had that like “Wow, you’re amazing! No one’s ever showed me that before.” And it’s like no there’s a lot of people out there that can do that it’s just that you have to be in the right crowd or the right knowledge based…but knowing that there’s other people that can give you those sensations might help.
Reid: Yeah. I would go through the actual protocols and then answer the questions for yourself, how do you navigate the protocols when it comes to energy or for anybody watching like really strong powerful experiences? When you start to map that out, there’s….I also do have a product for those of you who sign up for the protocols there’s a special on that page called identifying your weak spots, your protocol weak spots, casual sex weak spots, that might also help you start to look at like “Oh… where do I get wobbly?”
Reid: The balance here is…is for you to start to figure out for yourself it’s gonna be different person by person, how can you have expansive ecstatic experiences and celebrate the experience and not feel like you’re merging or having to get married or have babies with these people you know the third time like you…. you don’t know if this person is a good person for you to date like if they’re your species or not, what you’re having is an ecstatic experience.
Reid: It would be like going to concert having somebody rock your world with their music and you’re like “I have to join your band. No, I mean I have to join your band. Your music changed me.” It’s just about being “Oh, wow that music changed me. This was amazing. How do I integrate that into my life?” And so looking at how imprinting in different ways, this is why I talked about crushes because when I start to fall in love with people, I can catch myself how I’m thinking about it and this person’s obviously
Reid: catching themselves having…
Cathy: Good job.
Reid: having FEELS in all caps. Not to carp…compartmentalize it in this kind of like love is bad, imprinting is bad, merging is bad but how can you put that into a container where it’s like “That was one of the best rock concerts I’ve ever been to. I’m so glad and cherished that I was there.”
Cathy: Yeah, without having to go on tour with them necessarily.
Reid: Yeah or just you know, wreak havoc emotionally on yourself. The air quotes “worst case” scenario is there’s somebody who imprints easily and powerfully or powerfully in these certain situations